1. There really is a festival in Seattle, and it’s called HUMP!, and it was founded a few years ago by Dan Savage, and it really is this idea of having fun with your sexuality and being an exhibitionist just for a night — instead of this mainstream porn industry, actually celebrating sexuality on screen in a more personal and artistic and maybe comedic way. And I had a friend who went to the festival and saw gay porn for the first time. And he was really fascinated by it. And I saw his response as a straight guy to this gay porn was really interesting, and that was where the wheels started turning for me. I thought, ‘Well, this relationship between straight men and gayness in general is really rich territory.’

    — Lynn Shelton on her 2009 film Humpday.

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  1. From the archives: Dan Savage

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  1. In case you missed it or you’d like to share, here’s the audio of Dan Savage and Terry Miller on Fresh Air. You can find an excerpt of It Gets Better and video clips here

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  1. In middle and high school, there’s an awareness that some of us must be gay and we don’t know who’s gay or how you become gay. A huge part of what animates homophobia among young people is paranoia and fear of their own capacity to be gay themselves. I write “Savage Love” and everyday I get letters from 14 and 15-year-old boys, primarily, who are worried that they’re gay because they don’t understand how you get to be gay — how that happens. And in almost all cases, these letters are from boys who are straight — who are not gay — who are not going to be gay. But they believe that gayness is like some sort of cancer and it grows on you if you’re not careful and not vigilant. Where do they get that idea that gayness is chosen?

    — Dan Savage, on the fear and paranoia that exist in middle and high schools about being gay. 

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  1. We’ve also had 20 years of an anti-gay hate campaign waged by the religious right where they’ve been telling parents who then expose their straight children to this rhetoric that ‘gay people are an attack on the family, that they’re trying to destroy the family.’ And [parents] at the mega-church listen to this stuff and they go to the ballot box and abuse gay and lesbian abstractions with their votes. Their kids go to school on Monday and there’s the queer kid or the kid who’s perceived to be queer because he’s gender non-conforming in some way. And they feel they have license to attack that kid because that kid attacked them first by simply existing. That’s what the religious right has injected into the culture over the past 20 years.

    — Dan Savage, on the continued prevalence of homophobia in today’s teenage world, on today’s Fresh Air. 

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  1. Dan Savage, on his own experiences growing up as a gay teenager: [full interview on Fresh Air here] "The bullied straight kid goes home to a shoulder to cry on and support and can talk freely about his experience at school and why he’s being bullied. I couldn’t go home and open up to my parents. I did think about suicide briefly — not because the bullying had gotten so bad, but because I thought that it would be the good Catholic-son thing to do for my parents." View in High-Res

    Dan Savage, on his own experiences growing up as a gay teenager: [full interview on Fresh Air here"The bullied straight kid goes home to a shoulder to cry on and support and can talk freely about his experience at school and why he’s being bullied. I couldn’t go home and open up to my parents. I did think about suicide briefly — not because the bullying had gotten so bad, but because I thought that it would be the good Catholic-son thing to do for my parents."

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  1. The latest Savage Love podcast (which may or may not be safe for work, depending on where you work. It is safe for where I work. But it probably is not safe for where you work. Still, maybe a home listen.) 

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  1. Posted on 22 March, 2011

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    Reblogged from misswizzle

    Social conservatives long to raise their children in a country where they don’t have to hear about homosexuality every time they turn on the news… Guess what? In countries like Canada — where the fight over gay rights is essentially over, where there is gay marriage, open military service and employment protections — homosexuality hardly ever makes the front pages of newspapers… Conservatives can’t get rid of us, but they can hear less from and about us. They just have to bend toward justice.

    — Dan Savage: A Gay Agenda for Everyone - NYTimes.com (via feministhemes)

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  1. Posted on 22 March, 2011

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    “… I’d really like to meet the person responsible for some graffiti I spotted in the men’s room at the Cornerstone: “Don’t Raw Dog A Random.” … It did take me a second to work out exactly what it meant, as I’m old, so here’s a quick translation for other olds: “Don’t raw dog a random” means “For heaven’s sake, don’t engage in unprotected vaginal intercourse—don’t have sex without a condom—with a woman you’ve only just met, particularly if you met her in this drinking establishment. Bro.”

    — Dan Savage (via twinklet*ts)

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  1. thetrevorproject:

    Morning inspiration from the cast of the national tour of A Chorus Line: “I realized there was no reason to be ashamed of who I was and now I’m living the life I always wanted.”

    The Trevor Project is on Tumblr. 

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  1. The hate mail was of a much higher caliber back before email. I honestly believe the whole draft-hate-mail-find-envelope-insert-hate-mail-address-envelope-stamp-envelope-leave-house-drop-letter-in-mailbox routine set the hater bar just a bit higher. (Particularly the leave-the-house part.)

    — Good To Know | Slog (via thesunshinekate)

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  1. Tomorrow: Dan Savage and Terry Miller, the co-editors and creators of It Gets Better. [Pictured: Tim Gunn]

    [Dan Savage and Terry Miller] [President Obama] [Ellen Degeneres] [Google employees] [Pixar employees] [Rebecca Drysdale] [Suze Orman] [Neil Patrick Harris] [UPenn President Amy Gutmann] [Princeton University] [NC State] [Emory University] [Youth Pride Chorus] [Gallaudet University]

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